Willing vs wanting

What I learned today 

I wanted to talk about willing and wanting. There almost sound the same but with different meaning, often I hear people saying that they are willing to do something but do nothing about, so I went to my dictionary to help me.

DEFINITIONS

Willing to - Used to express determination, insistence, persistence, or willfulness (I have made up my mind to go and go I will); used to express inevitability. Shows Intentionality. Used to express a command, exhortation, or injunction, or commitment to act in a certain way to make something happen. 

Wanting to - To desire something, to have a strong inclination toward it, to wish for something. Implies no action or intent.

COMPARISONS

You're determined to what it takes vs.

You may not take any action at all 

You make it happen vs. You hope it will happen 

You expect it to happen and will participate in making it happen vs. You wish it will but do nothing about it 

Can you tell the difference now? 

Stop wanting start willing and you will see results.

Let the Fire burn

 

Perseverance 

Hello guys, I am back with another series in my blog called "What I learnt to day" , to help you improve.

 For the past 21 days I challenged myself to do things that I have never done before, one of them was to wake up 5:30am  and organise my day, the 21 days finished and I have tried for 2 days to wake up ,8 am  to see how it would feel like,and I have learnt that it became difficult for me, and I also learnt that just as it was difficult for me at first to wake up 5:30am but after it became a habit for me, if I continue waking up 8am it will eventually be my habit again.

Changes are there to make you a better person specially if you have big life goals like me. I want to open my own business and that requires discipline, organisation and time keeping,  I figured if I sleep less and spend time doing what is important,I will became I better person, richer and healthier.

What I learn today:

don't allow what you have built to die.

Don't allow the fire inside of you to cool down, in whatever it is that you are doing.

You may not seeking to open a business but other things such as:

*Losing weight 

*Drink more water

*Exercise more....

Once you give your first step don't stop just keep on going, and when it's hurting that's when you have to push even more because you know it's working and your results may be just be a step away. 

    You will only know if you push

Different looks/style for you to look so beautiful

We all have different body shape and sizes.

I think it's very important for you to know your body in order to dress up accordantly. Knowing my body shape helped  me a lot when it came to different style, I have had some epic fails but I am learning every day!

At times it's important to change our look,explore what's is good on us or what it's not, our looks helps to build our confidence also.

Here is some of my looks, I hope it helps you.

Black lies

Black lies!

There is nothing that you do in the dark that does not came to light. We try to be clever and get away with it for a while, but at the end of the day, what we do catches up with us.

I am sure most of us have gotten caught up in such a dilemma before; where you told a lie and all seems to be okay, however later on it all catches on to you. 

The question is, why do we lie? 

I say it's because we are lairs right?-

In this simple world, it is a straight-forward answer. But there is more to it.

Lie:

(a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.)

One day my uncle told me a story about 3 men:

1)the thief

2)the killer 

3)the liar 

They all went to a united town and said,  "what can we do to destroy this town?" So they all went and took turns. But, at the end of each round they got a cough and were expelled from the town. One killed and the elders of the town had a meeting and went to hunt for the killer. The same happened with the thief. But the liar was not in action yet, so he went down to the town and made some friends and he put his plan into action. He told a black lie there, a white one here and by the end the 3 men stood at the highest place of that town watching them destroying themselves because of the lies the liar told.

Nothing that you build on lies never stands; nothing built up on pretence lasts, because the truth will always be begging to come out and eventually does. 

I had a friend for whom we knew each other since our childhood. Few years later my friend showed up.Since I didn't know the person so well, I gave It a chance. It all seemed to be too perfect and surreal of how much of a good person the person was. As time went by, I just followed the signs and suspicions, and I found out the person was lying to me.

The morale of this is simple: if the truth you are trying to hide doesn't blow up in your face, someone can even expose the truth. Chances are you may lose everything you have. I know what I am saying because I have been there. When it comes to getting to know someone and it is all based on lies; what can happen is that after lying so much you end up actually liking the person and the lie can pop up at anytime. So all your energy is on trying to prevent the lie from popping up. When you decide to tell the truth you and try and continue from there, all that you say becomes hard to believe.

Think about this things and change what needs to change. 🎀 

 

Black and Blue

Choices  (Patches)

Have you ever an old piece of clothing that you love so much and  you don't want to let go of it? Sometimes you wonder if only you could have patches of all the old clothing you love, just to keep it all. Some "daring" people may actually take the action to put everything together to see if they will like it. However, in the end it becomes a mess and eventually lose the clothing and possibly the love for it.

HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU BEFORE?- I am actually one of those daring people hehehe

If we take a good look at our lives, it actually follows that pattern. We grow old, make new friends, make decisions, plan the way we want to live our lives, 'dye' our hair, decide on the number of children we want to have, plan our occupation, decide on the food we want to eat and so on. But, for us to get to where we want in life we have choices which represent the 'patches'.

Choices are the decisions we need to make, in order to get where we want to be. Be determined and fixed on your choices. Let your no be a no and your yes be a yes. Do not let emotions be at play when making choices.

The choices we make can also be our distractions. Hence you need to be vigilante. For example, you choose to continue to be friends with some people you grew up with. They might be good people, however they do not allow you to focus. But, you keep trying to please them because you don't want to lose them. 

Detailed example: You  meet an old friend you used to love dearly and meant a lot to you in the past. You are keen on catching up with that person and reminisce on the good times you enjoyed together. You even consider making things go back to what it used to be. But as time passes by, you notice that you guys have nothing in common, your friend is making you do what you don't like and impeding you from focusing on what's really important in your life. YOU want to get the old clothes and PATCH them into a  new clothing. Rest assured, it will rip off badly

There are many examples that you can relate to, from your own experiences. At times, it's the friend, the boyfriend, a habit, certain circumstances surrounding you etc., that try to stop you from doing the right thing.

You have the choice to make: throw away the old clothes and GET new ones OR mess it all up? 

There are certain things in our lives that that are not meant to be kept, others for just a short period. We have difficulty letting things go. If we don't learn to make the right choices at the right time it can affect us in long run.

Task: See what has been holding you from moving forward. See what needs to go and let go of it- don't look back, because the new is better than the old. 

Black as a perfect skin

Hello everyone! Today's topic is about "trends" in today's society. 

How many of us follow trends? How many of us are influenced by these "trends"? 

Most of the time, we follow trends because it's easy to follow than lead. Also because it's considered cool or nice! 

Some trends are nice, depending on the reason behind it. For example: The "ice bucket challenge" which is geared to help to save lives. However, others just decided to do it simply because celebrities and their friends were doing it, without actually finding out what it was really about. That's when following trends with no reason becomes bad. 

According to a dictionary's definition,

"A trend is what's hip or popular at a certain point in time. While a trend usually refers to a certain style in fashion or entertainment".

According to my dictionary, this is what trend means. In my opinion, it's an excuse to not be creative. The following are a list of popular trends and notions we succumb to without questioning them:

* Men are all the same.

* Slim is beautiful 

* Why get married when you can date forever

* If you don't dress sex than you are not cool

* Twerking/ let's all be Miley Cyrus

* Smoking weed is totally normal, after all Rihanna does it too

* Sending nude pictures 

* Yolo (You Only Live Once): so go wild and crazy

* Who am I to be successful 

* I am a bad b****

* Sex is totally normal

There are so many trends we follow that we don't realise how it has a negative influence on our lives. It makes us fail to see who we really are. Girls, you want your boyfriend to treat you as a prince but you call yourself bad b***, really? You say men are all the same that's why you accept them to cheat on you and you believe that you can't find a better man. You want to lose weight because it is said that being skinny is what's beautiful, and etc. 

I say, start by having a relationship with yourself. Know who you are. Define what is beautiful not because others say it is but because you know it's beautiful. Be the one that leads and set an example.

I am not asking you to be perfect but to BE A BETTER YOU!

Black with a colour on Top

Today I want to talk about karate.

Imagine yourself in a karate class. The rule is simple, attack or defend. You will have to punch, kick etc. If you don't fight, your opponent will end up defeating you. If you only defend, your opponent will continue to attack, punch, kick and so on.

There are only two ways; you either learn to fight or you get attacked. As you keep fighting, it is only natural that you will get better at punching, and other things you do when you learn karate.

The black side of this story is this; you are in a karate class. Feelings, thoughts, decisions, choices and emotions are running through your mind. All the negative thoughts you have is your opponent. When you say to yourself such as, ‘I can't do this’, ‘I am not good enough’, ‘I will not make it’, ‘I’m always like this’, ‘I’m trying but... etc., you are allowing yourself to get punched in the face, or in any other part of your body. Everytime you fear to take an action, you allow that little thought of ‘I’m not good enough’, to take control and beat you down. Remember, your opponent will not stop until you are knocked down or completely weakened to the point that you can’t do anything. Your opponent will remind you of why you are not where you want to be, only because you have been KO'd.

We all have fears, reasons, insecurities, and guess what? It's okay to feel that way, as long as you don't allow it to overcome you. Everytime you allow the fears, doubts and negative thoughts to stop you from making a decision, achieving your dream or taking actions, you are already taking a step back from your dream. 

What is it that you think that you can't do? What has been so black in your life? I say, put colour on it; face your fears, take chances, make a choice and do something. 

An old friend of mine once said, “everyone seems to know the price of everything but the value of nothing. When you know the value of what you want and how important it is for you, you will do whatever it takes to get it.” 

Remember you are in a karate class, if you only defend you will eventually get beaten and get hurt. However, when you attack you give and you get.🎀🎀🎀😜