Tips on how to dress up

Hello girls today me and my friend Gloria were talking about how dressing up descretely is important.

The way we dress up speaks a lot about youself, you either are comfortable with yourself or you are trying to prove a point to your girl friends! Sad right?

* Gloria

Today for the first time since the start of the year I really understood what it mean to be confident in myself, specifically in regards to clothing. You've probably heard many times from you mum, your aunt, your pastor's wife or even your friends that you should dress more secretly (aka cover up!) but none of this really changed your mind about wearing your tight mini skirts, or your plunging tops exposing all your goodies, nor did it stop you from showing off your belly. But I'm not going to tell you what not to wear, you can figure this out once you've read the rest of what I'm going to share.

I spoke to a guy today and he definitely agreed that your exposing outfits would attract him and all his mates, and in fact it would make you the centre of their attention because they would want to persue you for your "hotness", but only that! Never would they want to introduce you to their parents or family becaus nothing serious can come out of a sold out item. After all, a vulgar woman is like a cheap piece of clothing on a shop display window, every one looks at it, tries it, and may even take pictures with it but no one ever buys it because it's no good! Now I'm sure none of us want to be used. How many times have we heard "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?!" This goes the same with the fact that when we don't value ourselves enough to dress descretely, then no one will see the importance in investing into getting to know you when you're already selling yourself short.

So maybe it's the case that you're trying to keep up with the trends or show off to your friends, you should always remember some types of attention is better than no attention at all. For the first time I appreciated the fact that I am beautiful and confident in clothes that call the right attention without having to be indiscreet. For the first time I appreciated the fact that I am setting a good example and that I can be fashionable while doing it. 

Here are some tips on how to dress appropriately in different occasions.

PS. Forgive me for the use of harsh words.

The long Road

Today I will start with a question.

Have you ever in your life took the easy way of things are it back fired you?

I am guilt of charge hihihihih, just like you I have done that too and the result wasn't good. The proverbs of today talks about choices.

Proverbs2:12,13

"To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;

Who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness;" Last week I talked about knowledge and wisdom, today I want to talk about bad companies, as women men or women, we may have an idea of who we want to became or of where we want to be in few years, but sometimes we get distracted by our friends or by the world or by what we see, so we end up dong what we don't want, we start hanging around with the wrong companies.   I also want to talk about bad companies in our spiritual life, the world is full of fun and if we are not really sure of what we want or what's really important we end up losing the opportunity to know God more.  In school if we don't apply ourself and give 100% in everything we may fail At home with your family if you take them for granted you will ruin the relationship with your family members.  What I want to say is this, to do the wrong thing is very easy, to follow the crowd it's easy, to be negative is easy,to put yourself down its all easy, but to walk on the path of uprightness it's difficult, it's like almost impossible to be happy in this path, you do everything right, you wake up early applying for jobs and go sleep late but no answer, you give all you have to help people but at the end of the day they are ungrateful, you stop doing wrong you leave the bad companies behind to do what's right and it looks like others are making and you are left with nothing, in this path it always looks like if will not work and this is what the world wants you to believe and many other things you can think of just add it on...  This proverbs show that if you keep on doing what is right no matter how hard it gets you will get there, but if you think it's too hard and leave the path of uprightness, you will walk into ways of darkness and there,there is no way out. I want to understand that after a rainy day, it cames the  rinbow ,right there to show you  it was worth it.    Tough moments are there for two reasons: 1) To show you how much you really want one thing, to give you the strength you need to go the extra mile. 2) To show you that it was not important and just like the lazy you will quit and let it go.  Last Sunday I learned this: Tough moments don't last forever  But tough people do.

knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul

Last week I stared to post proverbs that will help you and me to change our ways and make wise decisions and change the way we see things.

Proverbs helped me in many ways, I still have a lots of things to change and many things to practice.

The verse of today is 
Proverbs 

2:10 When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul;

I was wondering what pleasent to our soul?

I thought of sleeping because when you don't sleep, you became tired, everything annoys you, you don't want to do nothing but reast your body, and many other things you could think of that its pleasent to our soul, such as watching a movie,eating,be in a silece place,reading a book, and many more we all different, so when you meditate on this post try to draw your mind into what os pleasent for you.

In life we went through  so many different things,same of them we learnt from others we didn't . How can you see if you have changed or not? Simples see how many times you make the same mistake over and over again, it shows that you still don't have the knowledge it.

Example: one thing about me that I always get it wrong it's given. I am very unbalanced when it cames to giving, it's not that I don't give its that I give too much, and there is no balanced, I think too much in other people, I want to help everyone and at the end, everyone is read to go and I am still not done and no one wants to help. For me that was not a problem, because in my head I thought it's normal for me to Lose In order for others to have, and if we think about it, it's good for us to give more of ourself to others, but when it's done wisely. So I decided to change the situation around, trust me it's not easy for me at all to say no to others when they ask me for help but I have to push it, I had to go against my will and have balance. Before the knowledge be cames pleasent to your soul changes is needed, you have to go against yourself and than you will have what many people lack, "wisdom"

  I have seen many results in my changes, the reason why I am changing its because i saw the problem,wisdom entred my heart and the knowledge became pleasent to my soul because I am not longer frustrated because I don't get things done on time, or because I am always the one lacking for others to have, I learned to help myself and then help others.

May be your situation is different than mine, annalyse what is your problem and change them by using this verse to help you.

Proverbs for life

For a period of 40 days in my life I ready every single chapter and verses of the book of proverbs in the bible and it help me to see things in a different way. After finishing the book, a thought came into my head "if you read this book and not educate yourself I guess will never be educated again"

  I lots of time we find ourself making the same mistake over and over again, and we ask ourself why? And the answer its simple we are just not been wise enought to see that doing the same thing over and over again will not give is a different answer and this book of proverbs helped me to see that and I want to share it with you hoping that it may help you too. 

Here is the first chapter and verse: 

 

Proverbs

"1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:"

One of the things that can kill a person is not hearing what others have to say, they think they know better than anyone, the opinion matters more,what they think it's better than what others think, they think that they are the only one who have ever been to that situation. Most of the mistakes we make its because we didn't took that extra minute to just listen what others what to say, or to accept others help or advise in how to overcame certain things, and they are so many examples I can give about myself, one of them has happen recently it's silly but if I took that extra minute to think about I wouldn't have burn my ears, I didn't burn it with a hair straightener or a hair dryer but with a Iron, now imagine what was I doing with the iron to burn my ear?....

*A wise man will hear, and will increase learning

This bible serves show that a wise man listens to what others have to say,she/he analyses the situation before making a decision, she/he wants to learn new things and not just stick to what she things it's best. This "wise"person is always looking for ways to became better and how he could increase his knowledge.

*and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels

When you look for wiser ways of making decision you also learn to have a different understanding of things, you see thinks in different way, you will be able to see a way out where others don't see, you able to help others and not just thing about yourself.

Now you may ask me how do I get there? How do I became this type of person? 

The answer it's simple be humble, see why things at times don't work well for you. 

See the way you react when others are trying to help you?

What have you been doing with the advises you take from others?

When you around people do you let them express they opinion and respect them or you always have to be the one with the last word?

I don't know the answer for everything, some of this things I writing to you I am also trying to figure it out, so as I am trying to find out the answers I am also trying to help you so we can all change together.

Take that extra minute and over think about the situation, one action,one word can define lives.

       I am not asking you to be perfect I am just asking you to make a difference. 

                 

  I will be saying this at all my blog post, I am just letting you know!😜😜😜